Having new job jitters is common. If you’re concerned anxiety may affect your performance, a few strategies may help you cope on your start date and beyond.
You finally got that job, but now you’re feeling a bit shaky about your first day and what awaits you at work.
New job anxiety can feel different for everyone. You may wonder how you’ll fit in, what your boss will be like, or whether you’ll be able to handle your workload. All of this is valid and common.
Sometimes, the “why” of anxiety may not be clear to you, and that’s also OK. What you feel is still real.
How long anxiety lasts when starting a new job depends on many factors, including if you already live with an anxiety disorder or other conditions, your support network, and the specific worries you have about your work.
But managing anxiety, in all cases, is possible. And doing so may also help you reduce the chance of dealing with stress at work later on.
It’s natural for a new job to bring a mixture of emotions. The two biggest may be uncertainty around the role and performance anxiety, says Gaby Balsells, a clinical psychologist in Stamford, Connecticut.
“The uncertainty may have to do with the unanswered questions around what the environment, your team, and your boss will be like, and how hard the workload will be,” she explains. “Performance anxiety has to do with worrying about being ‘good enough’ and being up for the challenge.”
These exercises may be useful to manage anxiety before, during, and after your first day at work.
Anxiety and overthinking are generally your brain’s way of trying to protect you and prepare for what’s to come. That’s the purpose of the stress response, says Balsells.
But, deep breathing can activate the parasympathetic nervous system (rest and digest state), which is the opposite of fight, flight, or freeze mode.
Whenever you feel anxious thoughts coming up, try to switch to deep breathing for a few minutes.
“Place one hand on your heart, and your other hand on your belly. Breathe in for four counts and breathe out for six,” Balsells advises. “Making the exhale longer than the inhale activates the relaxation response in your nervous system.”
When you start to notice your thoughts spinning, you may find it helpful to use grounding exercises like the 5-4-3-2-1 method, says Victoria Smith, a licensed clinical social worker in El Segundo, California.
Using your five senses to decrease anxiety is a method that’s backed up by science. Here’s how it works:
focus on five things you can see right where you are
touch four things you can feel the texture of
pay attention to three things you can hear
find two things you can smell
try one thing you can taste
“Try to go through this exercise until you notice a shift to feeling more calm,” says Smith.
Washing your face with cold water or holding an ice cube on one hand may also help to switch your attention from anxious thoughts.
Journaling may help you process your feelings, says Smith.
Journaling is free writing about your thoughts and feelings.
“You can journal about the things you are worried about and decipher whether or not there’s anything within your control,” she explains. “If there are actionable tasks to complete, that’s great. If not, your focus will be to learn to tolerate this feeling of anxiety while being patient and kind to yourself.”
Try to give yourself credit where credit is due, she adds. If possible, consider journaling about both your worries or fears and your accomplishments.
“This often helps people get a bird’s eye view of what they’re feeling, so that they can see this experience as part of a larger timeline,” says Smith.
For example, you can write about all the skills and achievements that got you the job. Then, try to identify those things you’re anxious about, and what, if anything, you can do about those things.
Consider asking yourself if your worries and fears come from evidence or if you may be using cognitive distortions that make you see things more negatively than they are.
Sometimes, we convince ourselves that we’re supposed to know how to do everything right from the beginning and that there’s no margin for error, says Saba Harouni Lurie, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Los Angeles.
“It might be helpful to remind yourself that you were hired for a reason and that you aren’t meant to know everything at once,” she says. “Most employers expect a bit of a learning curve as you get accustomed to how things operate and will gladly welcome any questions as you familiarize yourself with the role.”
Some examples of positive self-talk include:
“It’s natural to be nervous. I will get through this.”
“I am a human being. It’s OK to make mistakes.”
“They hired me for a reason. I am qualified for this role.”
Using positive affirmations for anxiety may also help you focus on positive self-talk.
If getting ready for work in the morning is a source of your work anxiety, try to make an effort to prepare everything you need for your workday the night before, says Lurie.
“Place your packed bag by the door, organize your outfit, and make your lunch in advance,” she says. “Taking small steps to prepare yourself in advance can seriously reduce your overall stress and help you feel more confident about your new job.”
Being proactive may give you the sense of being in control of the situation, and reduce the chance of extra stress on the morning of your first day at work.
Anxious about your first day at work? It’s natural and valid, and you’re not alone. There are many reasons to feel anxious about a new job, and these aren’t always clear.
But anxiety symptoms can be managed. Focusing on positive self-talk, practicing deep breathing, and journaling can help.
If you find anxiety impacts the way you see yourself, others, and your world, it may be a good idea to find a mental health professional to talk with.
Last medically reviewed on May 25, 2022
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Medically reviewed by Vara Saripalli, Psy.D.
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first appeared in: psychcentral.com